Through all of this, I have always been one to read books, self help books and turn to God for answers...
I ran across this book that has been amazing for me...
WOMAN thou art HEALED & WHOLE
A 90 Day Devotional Journey
by T.D. Jakes
Every day, has been SPOT On for me while reading this book! And I can't begin to say just how life saving it has been for me...
Today's reading is exactly where I am in my life.... God is speaking to me and I need to be patient and let Him work His miracles on my shattered emotions.
Our history has made us who we are. the images, scars,and victories that we live with have shaped us into thee people we have become. We will never know who a person is until we understand where they have been.
The secret of being transformed from a vulnerable victim to a victorious, loving person is found in thee ability to open your past to someone responsible enough to share your weaknesses and pains. You don't have to keep reliving it. You can release it.
There can be no better first step toward deliverance than to find a Christian counselor or pastor and come out of hiding. Of course some care should be taken. No one is expected to air their personal life to everyone or even everywhere. However, if you seek God's guidance and thee help of confident leadership, you will find someone who can help you work through the pain and suffering of being a victim. The Church is a body. No one operates independent of another. We are all in this walk together, and therefore can build one another up and carry some of the load with which our sisters are burdened.
There is hope for victims. There is no need to feel weak when on has Jesus Christ. His power is enough to bring about the kinds of changes that will set you free. He is calling, through the work of the Holy Spirit, for you to be set free.
As you share your journey to healing and freedom with others, you are actually participating in the healing process. It's not simply sharing about your struggle; as you find someone who you trust to share your journey with, you are doing what James wrote about "make this your common practice: Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you can live together whole and healed" (James 5:16 MSG).
Pray and ask God to send you the right person or group. Ask Him to lead you to the wise and compassionate voice of counsel. Do not enter into this kind of accountability relationship flippantly. This process is absolutely integral when it comes to you receiving the healing that you long for. When we keep our struggle in the dar, it festers. It eats away at us. Thee truth is, we cannot conquer it lone. We need iron to sharpen us. We need those who speak as oracles of God, releasing words of life, hope, healing, and purpose over us. To see perfection, you are setting yourself up for instant disappointment. No person, friend, or counselor will be perfect. Only the Wonderful Counselor fits that description. At the same time, the Wonderful Counselor speaks to others in unique ways through the Holy Spirit. Thee very words of life and healing that you need might just be in thee voice of another. Recognize this. Open up. Ask the Lord for guidance to find thee right people. And trust His process!
Open Up and Receive Your Healing
I definitely recommend this book to anyone that finds herself struggling after any type of abuse from a relationship.